Who broke your heart when they left this Earth?
Was it a parent, a grandparent? A sister, a friend? Was it a a child who began to grow inside of you, a child you held on this earth, a child you loved and lost?
Was it more than one person – was it many who left all at once?
Does your heart still hurt when you think of them? Do tears catch you unawares, months, weeks, even years later?
Have you moved on with your life, yet still, you feel the empty space within that they left, nagging at you – always there – no matter where you go?
This is a space for you to honor those you have loved and lost. This is your garden, to give acknowledgement to the blooms that rose in your heart, then returned to the Earth.
Please, share your story, in as many words as you like, and use this space to acknowledge and honor all the things you loved about the ones you lost, all the hopes you had for the future that have vanished with their parting, all the sorrow you still feel within as you wake each day to live life without them.
Whether this is a recent loss, or a loss that still aches inside you from years ago, share it. Feel free to post links to photos, or stories you’ve shared on your blog/website about the special people who’ve gone before you. This is your space – do what you want with it.
I will be here, reading each one, and doing my best to respond as quickly as possible to each one.
You all know my story – all the umpteen losses I’ve experienced in my life already – but the beginning of a new story starts here.
The work I’ve done to heal the pain of these losses has helped me to identify what I loved about each of the people I lost, and in their honor, I’ve vowed to give to the world what each of them gave me. For Mike, I give selfless service. For the baby I lost, I give faith. For my nephew, I give a sense of awe and wonder to my own children. For my Grandma Noni, I give joy.
For my Grandma Annette, I give you this space. Bless her soul, that remarkable woman called me after each loss I experienced, large or small. She called when a death occurred, she called when I sprained my ankle, she called when we had to move again and again, she called when my daughter was seriously ill, and when she knew the thought of one more funeral was breaking my heart. She listened and acknowledged every single loss I had.
So, I want to do the same for you. I am here for you…to listen, acknowledge, and honor what you’ve lost. To acknowledge the people you’ve lost, and also to acknowledge and honor the pain you feel around their loss.
And, if you’re willing, perhaps we can begin a conversation that will help you find a way to live your life giving to others what was given to you by them.
Post freely in the comments below. If it helps, here is a format you can copy and paste to share your story, or just write your heart out, however it flows. Feel free to use first names only, etc., for privacy.
My name is:
I am posting today in loving memory of:
Who passed away (date, or year, if you wish):
When I think of this person, I feel:
What I miss most about this person is:
The gifts this person gave me in life were (ie: They always listened to me, they were a good friend, they provided for me, etc):
Anything else you want to share?: